The Garden Post, Inspired by Abby

Well, I've been wanting to post pictures and details about my garden, but I didn't quite get to it last week. Over the weekend we had 6.85" of rain in our neighborhood and my garden is very muddy. Many of my plants are pounded to the ground and a lot of my flowers lost all their pedals! They all look like they'll bounce back, but I'm not going to post pictures till they look a little better and the soil dries a bit.

I, like Abby, have planted my very first, very own vegetable garden! I am growing peas on the vine, red and white onions, carrots, salad greens, cucumbers, green bell peppers, red chili peppers, yellow bell peppers, 1 cherry tomato plant, 2 large tomato plants, 1 medium tomato plant, green beans, 1 butternut squash plant, and 3 zucchini plants! I planted everything closer together than recommended because we just didn't have the room. We'll see how that works out. :) I also planted chives, cilantro, basil, rosemary, and parsley? I think that's right... I planted all my herbs, including the chives, in little pots with the hope of bringing them in for the fall/winter and having fresh herbs all year. I planted about 3 or 4 weeks ago and everything is up and growing well!

I also planted a host of last week flowers and they're doing okay. If I could do it over again, I would have had a bit more variety and I would have grouped things together. They're all planted sporadically with other flowers and other colors. It doesn't really flow, but I guess the way to learn is by trial and error, right?

The best addition to my garden is my rain barrel!!! For my birthday, Ben built me a rain barrel! (One of the benefits of marrying a civil engineer who works with water supply and water distribution, I guess.) It catches rain water off the roof of the garage into a 60 gallon barrel. It only takes a half inch of rain to fill the barrel and in a dry week, I'm estimating I could water my whole garden, vegetables & flowers, at least twice. Rain water is best for my plants, plus we're being good stewards of our resources, while saving money at the same time. Although I was a little disappointed to open a box of PVC pipes on my birthday, I've grown to love my rain barrel so much that I'm having Ben build me a second one for the other side of the garage. Here's a picture of it, including the watering can he bought to go with it:

Oh, I guess you can see my tomatoes growing in the back. :) It's funny, I call it a rain barrel and Ben calls it a "rain water catchment tank."

Kelli's Big Adventure

Well, I started this post, then ran out of time to finish it, but I wanted to post the pics anyway to see where they would show up on the page. I got busy for a couple days, then our internet got disconnected, so here we are...

OOOOOkay, a couple of weeks ago Ben had to go to Chicago for a seminar for work. He wanted me to go with him, but I would need to find stuff to do during the day while he was gone. We took the Amtrak down there, which was awesome because it only took us 1.5 hrs (even during rush hour) and ended up being cheaper than taking the car, if you included the cost of parking. It was a nice way to travel - highly recommend it. :)

We got to the hotel around sunset and the picture below is looking Northeast out of our hotel room. You can see the John Hancock building. It was beautiful!

I forgot to include my knock-off picture of Missy's famous, yet kinda gross, picture of a a half-eaten piece of Chicago-style pizza, but we made sure to get that for dinner that night.

On Thursday, I decided to take the L up to Wrigley Field because I had never been there and hey, they were playing the Brewers! I was just going to get my ticket when I got there to avoid the fees, but some guy in front of me overheard me telling someone what I planned to do and he handed me a ticket - for FREE! That was VERY nice! It only cost me about $4.00 round trip to ride the L. NICE.

Well, when I got there, I started taking touristy pictures like the one below. (I got my finger in it -whoops! I don't know how to touch up photos, so it has to stay.)

While I was doing this, a guy with a Wisconsin ball cap on came and asked me first if I was a Brewers fan. When I replied that I was, he asked me if I wanted a ticket - for FREE! I showed him the one I already had so we could decide which one was better, and he assured me that his was better. I gave the first ticket to a scalper who looked like he could use the money.

Check out these seats! The guy was NOT kidding! I haven't had this sweet of seats at any game since my last game at County Stadium!

Turns out I sat with the guy who gave me the sweet ticket (the one in the middle below) and his two friends. I had the very BEST time!! They were so fun and very respectful. People keep asking me if they hit on me or anything like that and they didn't. They were very cool. We were just four baseball fans enjoying the game and a healthy rivalry (2 Cubs fans, 2 Brewers fans). I learned about their kids, where the live, how some friend of theirs couldn't make it, allowing for them to give me his ticket, etc. My cool new friends are from closest to farthest, Joe, Pat, and Dean. I sat next to Joe, who was really fun. He took my teasing him about being old and losing his hair very well. :) They bought me a coke and would have bought me anything I wanted. I really wish I had sat down before paying $7.25 for a dog and water! They were very sweet. My only regret is that I didn't get their email addresses so we could maybe catch another game together someday. =D Oh, and Joe used to play like a minor league professional baseball or something, and he was VERY impressed with how much I knew about baseball. I have to give credit to my dad <3 for that! :)

I wish I could say the rest of my stay was that exciting, but it wasn't. I didn't really know what else I could do for cheap. Looking back, I suppose I could have gone to the museums or something, but those are kind of expensive, too. All I did on Friday was work out in the fitness center, pack us up, and surfed the net till Ben was done at 3:00. My first trip to Wrigley was definitely worth the trip, though!

Ben's 25th Birthday

It was Ben's 25th birthday yesterday. (He's so young!) I started the day by getting up early and baking him cinnamon rolls to take to work. After dropping him off, I came home and took a nap.

Later we went out for lunch down at the Grand Avenue Mall and he got to pick out a new Brewer's hat. I bought him two because they had them buy one get them half off! We thoroughly enjoyed our lunch AND the extra time we got to spend together. I also got Ben a new basketball, which he wouldn't stop playing with the rest of the night, a pound of tasty coffee, and the collector's edition of his favorite movie, Braveheart.

Since the NCAA championship game was on his birthday, Ben requested buffalo wings and a beer for his birthday dinner. :)

They turned out really well and were just as good as any sports bar in town, I'm sure. He thought they were awesome!

(He had to wear the hot pads cause I had heated the pan to keep the wings warm. It's kinda funny because I think he looks like Mr. Mom with them on!)

For his cake, I made a snicker cake, which was also enjoyed by all. (All two of us.)

We were so glad that Ben was able to eat so much good food yesterday (good food is Ben's love language) since Friday and Saturday he was so sick he was puking, a disease he contracted from his wife who was sick and puking one week before.

Ben said it was the best birthday he's had since he was a little kid! I was excited because who has birthdays now that rival the ones of youth? I mean really. My favorite parts of the day were watching Ben enjoy all the good meals after being so sick, seeing his delight in his new basketball and all his presents, and the best of all: he cried when he read my card. What a good birthday!! I really love my husband. :)

Our New House!

Wow, it's been SOOO long...

So, marriage is good. I love being a Wood and we love being married. :) Ben has been hunting a lot lately, but he's not having a good year. :( No deer yet. His report from opening weekend "I scared a lot of deer." That's why he's out today for the 4-day doe season... his last chance (unless he wants to bow hunt some more). Apparently "taking doe is good deer management." Whatever? :)

So, WE BOUGHT A NEW HOUSE!! We moved in the weekend of Thanksgiving and we love it! We're doing a lot of painting lately, so I don't really want to show you any pictures yet because the previous owner's style was very dated and it's kind of embarrassing. :) We'll be done with our living room on Monday or Tuesday, so at least I'll pictures of that. Unfortunately, colors always look different on the wall than in the samples, so I'm a little bit disappointed with how our living room turned out. I might be doing a little RE-painting next spring or summer??

Here's a picture I took just yesterday of our new house! Ben shoveled the sidewalk again yesterday for the 3rd time in like 5 days. He even did a little bit on Wednesday, even though we both gave blood! He takes good care of us. :)

The Post Hanging Over My Head

So, you probably want to see some more wedding pictures, huh?


http://www.mkirk.fotki.com/weddings

password: YMCA


I think I'll write something this weekend. =D That's if there's anyone still visiting this page out there?

WE'RE MARRIED!!

Ben and Kelli Wood

July 7, 2007

Ben and I couldn't have been more happy with our wedding! Although it was a hot 92 degrees, it was a beautiful day. The details all fell into place so nicely and we received many nice compliments on everything. Our ceremony was touching and the Lord's presence was very strong. We couldn't have asked for anything better. :)

Some things that were cool for me were the way the little things worked out, as I was saying. For instance, I ended up not having time to run down to the florist to see our bouquets and other arrangements before the wedding and they turned out perfect! Wow! I also wasn't prepared for the way the bright colors would "pop" against the periwinkle bridesmaid dresses. It was so pretty! Definitely exceeded my expectations. :)

One of the biggest blessings for us, besides being joined together by God, was that everyone seemed to have a wonderful time! I think every bride thinks at one time or another "will people dance? Will they have a good time? Will they stay or leave? etc." I couldn't have been happier. People loved the food, they said everything was beautiful, and they DANCED!! Boy, did they DANCE! =D It was awesome! People seemed to be having so much fun and it didn't start to clear out really till after 10:30. We were so pleased.

We've been home in Milwaukee now for two weeks after our lovely honeymoon in Bayfield, WI (put your left hand on the table or desk in front of you. Put the pointer finger of your right hand at the top right of the middle finger on your left hand. You've basically found Bayfield. ;-) ). We still have a sea of boxes from moving and wedding gifts to sort through, but it's coming along.

Please be praying for us as we transition and as we begin our lives together!

**Correction** Please be praying for us as we begin our life together! (thanks Jenny!) :)

Ben and Kelli sitting in a tree...

We had so much fun taking our engagement portraits last week!

rANdoM nEWs

Herein are the minute newsly details and my random thoughts of the week thus far.

Some people post nothing and get 15 comments, other people post nice things often and no one cares to comment. I never post, so I'm sure that's why I fall in neither category, really.

Being a bride can be NUTS. I'm having fun most of the time, though.

I don't like mean people. There's this mean girl at work who is almost always just so mean! Mean people usually don't look you in the eyes. Neither does she. If she did, she'd feel bad and then maybe she couldn't be so stinking MEAN all the time.





Blake got baptized on Sunday and Ben and I got to be there. That was boss. :)

I've got more to do at work than I can do.




Ben is pretty much amazing. <3 (Here's a picture of him doing a somersault at the St. Louis Arch on New Year's Day! Do you think he was getting excited about something?!) ;^)... )

Ben taught Sammy (my cat) to climb the dresser. Ahh!

So, it's been a year since my friend Katie Hartke died. :( There was an auction and a dance in her memory to raise money for music scholarships. It was pretty fun. That was just on Saturday. I should post some pics. It was great to see so many of my SAI friends.

I'm going dress shopping Saturday. Woot! (I mean, honestly... what does that mean anyway?) Pray that I find the dress of my dreams at a price I can afford. I think the dress shopping is the thing I'm most overwhelmed about. There are just SO MANY dresses to chose from. What do you do? I mean, how do you know? Oy!

Peace out!


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I added some pics for your viewing pleasure.

Yes, It's true.

Hello all,

I'm so sorry it has been so long since I have updated all of you lovely people. I wanted to write when Ben and I had our amazing 6th month anniversary date, etc. but life was so busy trying to complete my basic statistics class!! I was in class two nights a week and studying like mad every other night. Weekends are always busy, too but I think if I really wanted to, I guess I could have, eh? At any rate, occasions like this come along once in a lifetime, so I suppose I better post it. In case you haven't heard...

BEN AND I ARE ENGAGED!!

Yes, it's true. He proposed late at night on a walk out at my parents house while the moon was almost full and very high in the sky. It was very romantic and I didn't see it coming that night AT ALL!! It was just Monday, January 1st, a very special and sentimental day for us. I'm beaming all the time and I have the most beautiful ring ever (of course, I'm probably biased)! Check out these pics and ask me sometime why the ring is so special:





We're looking to get married in July and I'll let you know when we set the date!

Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in the heavenly realms with every spiritual blessing in Christ. - Ephesians 1:3

My Best Friend's Wedding

I don't know why I waited this long to post this, but I wanted to share some pictures from Rachel's wedding (8/12/06). I was honored to be a bridesmaid and I was so proud and moved during the weekend (especially the ceremony). :-) I thought I was fine, but then when she started walking down the isle my eyes totally filled up with tears. It's hard to explain watching one of the most important people in your life do one of the most important things in their life. I had a similar feeling at Abby's wedding last year, too. Rachel and I have been like sisters, though, so it was a little different. It's bittersweet because you know you have to let go a little bit, but you're so happy for them at the same time. Anyway, I'll stop babbling and just say CONGRATULATIONS RACHEL AND JASON!! Doesn't she (don't they) look beautiful? =) Ahh! Praise God!









So yeah, I'll add captions tomorrow... or whenever. :-) YAY!

My First Box

That same day I also had my first bite of string cheese. I love it at Kelli's house.

Sammy, Sammy, Sammy! Kitty, kitty,kitty!

So, I've had this precious little creature for about 6 weeks, but I haven't mentioned it yet. I named her Samantha Muffy Kruser, after our old kitty, Muffy, who had to be put to slee a couple of months ago. Sammy is enjoying the use of Muffy's litter box, feeder, and cat carrier. She's a lot bigger than she was in these pictures already, but she's still little and cute. She's crazy, actually, but I'm told there's not kitten who isn't. She's a great addition to my home and she likes to sleep on me. Cats can be so cuddly - I love it.

In other news, I'm going to start writing a series of dreams that I've had since I've been walking with the Lord and posting them on here. They are important and they explain a lot about where I am right now and what God is doing. Hopefully they will encourage you, as well.

I should also mention that Ben and I broke up because we we both sense a need to be in a deeper place with Jesus than we have been and we knew we needed to get there apart from one another. We did fall in love and we wanted to get married, but we must lay it aside right now and chose to place Jesus first above all things. For both of us, our hope is that the Lord would bring this around in the time he sees fit and that we will be together one day, but we are laying it down, letting it go. We would rather have Jesus first, whatever it takes. Your prayers for both of us would be much appreciated.

May you be blessed today and find the peace of Christ in your life.

Life's Little Lessons

I was talking with Dereck the other day and for some reason I remembered this little story from last summer:

I decided to head out for a power walk walk around my neighborhood at around 9:00p.m. in late June or July. I lived in a complex that was right next to this newer subdivision that was well-lighted, so I felt safe. I also felt safe to leave my door unlocked because I was only going to be gone for a half hour. (And by unlocked, I mean light on and the door wide open - anyone could have walked in my screen door. )

Anyway, I went out strong, getting my heart rate up, you know. So I walked all the way to the end of the main drag in the subdivision, but had only been gone 15 minutes. Instead of coming back the way I came, I thought "I'll just take one of these side streets, I'm sure it will loop back around to this one." WRONG! Hello, Kelli, it's housing development, individualized, white pavement, sod-lawned, designed for looks - not for practicality - America! I ended up just getting looped and twisted around for the next 45 minutes. I was still too stubborn to go back, so I kept trying to find new ways to get back to the main drag, each time thinking "this one's gotta go there eventually."

I was tromping along and walked by this house one of Missy's kids showed me when I dropped him off last summer. I realized that I had looped and twisted myself all the way around this marsh that I lived by and I was probably about 2 miles from my house, as the crow flies, but there were no roads that would take me there quickly. What had I done?! I eventually had to stop for 10 minutes and rest because I was exhausted. I had also been fasting that day, so it made the situation even worse. I was so hungry and sooo tired! I kept thinking, "if someone kills me and doesn't take my ring, that's how they'll identify my body." :p

Alas, I stood up and started back tracking - what I should have done a long time ago. After a long time, I ended up back that the road that I knew and that I needed to be on to get home! Whew! I guess I got home at about 11:00-11:15, maybe. Heidi had been working at Wal-Mart, so she wasn't quite home yet, either. I was able to thoroughly (and nervously) look through the house for any predators. Trust me, it looked like I had never left and I found no such villain lurking. Whew! (again) Boy, did I get lucky.

Anyway, that was a crazy experience and rather humorous at the time. I sure miss my homemade tie-dyed shirt I was wearing. :-( I felt at the time like it was just culminating the feeling of living in a new city - always thinking you've finally got an area figured out, only to realize that your knowledge was limited to one road. I tried to find some spiritual significance in the experience, as well. All I really ever came up with was that when we're stubborn and ignore wisdom, we're prone to walk and walk in circles, never getting where we need to be, only tiring ourselves in the process. If we find ourselves tangled, tired, and hungry sitting on a curb in the middle of white suburbia, all we have to do is humble ourselves, and go back whence we came. Wow, that makes too much sense right now...

Here I am, Lord.

A Couple of Hotties in IL

This was taken last weekend at TP's Wedding. Ben was an usher, but for the record, I was invited independently. ;D

I/we had a good weekend, although there was a lot of hustling around and we were stranded in the middle of northwest Illinois. :)

CONGRATULATIONS MR. AND MRS. PRINCE! (not that they'll ever read this... which is exactly why there's a picture of us and not them. :p)

Fun weekend, boring to talk about

This past weekend:

Friday night - picked up steaks for Dad at the store and drove to Platteville. Hung out with family and boyfriend.
Saturday - Ran some errands, made coleslaw, helped mom out, FAMILY REUNION. That was fun. I hit better than my brother in wiffle ball and I broke a ball (yes!). I also sang karaoke with my little cousins and my sister and it was hilarious. Later on I went to Ben's, chatted with his dad, watched a John Wayne movie, and ate pizza. :p
Sunday - Slept in. :-/ Gave said steaks to Dad for Father's Day. Went to picnic with my dad's side of the family at Lake Joy. My little cousins and I caught like 15 bluegills as big as my hand. I should have brought some home with me! They would have been good for dinner. :)

A lot of people have way more interesting lives than I do. ;^)

A Note

Graduation

Sucker for a Love Story

Well, here I am on another lunch break. People kept asking me if I was coming to lunch (in the lunch room, that is) and I was like "no, I want to eat by myself today." Sometimes I just don't want to go to the lunch room, I'd rather sit at my desk or another office and eat by myself. I know what you're thinking "you don't want to talk to anyone, so you're talking to everyone?" No, I do not believe writing on your blog counts as talking to people.

Man, the lady in the cube next to me is almost always on the phone, half the time it's work related.

I've been finding myself reading these silly dating articles on MSN after I check my hotmail lately. I find them all so humorous. Some of them are touching. Some of them are flat-out lame. Like today, they were giving tips to divorcees on how to get back into the dating pool, but the title of the article clearly implied that they were talking about "break-ups." Breaking up and divorcing are different, if you ask me. Anyway, then there was this other one about avoiding your ex (bf or gf, that is) in public. Funny. I guess I'm a sucker for a love story.

Speaking of love stories, I'm dating now. I almost made it 3 years (dangit!). Ben, my NEW boyfriend, says I can borrow a few of his months (over 4 years) to add to mine to make it a full three. What a nice guy. We've been dating 15 days now. (That seems like a long time... maybe it's because it's compared to the 3 years I haven't been dating leading up to this?)

So dating is interesting. I'm suddenly reminded of why people do the silly things they do and say the *stupid* things they say when they're dating. I had forgotten. They don't seem so stupid anymore because now I want to do them and I want to say them! I kind of surprise myself! I'm all "oh, I just thought that (or said that). I HATE it when people say stuff like that. It's so lame." ;-) I guess I had forgotten that love (not that I'm in love yet, but you know, the potential) is good, dating is good, making a fool out of yourself and getting all girly about a person is good, etc. Really, I just think being with Ben is good. =) Also, I suddenly have this new thing in my already busy schedule and I'm kind of going "okay, now how's this gonna' work?", but the fact is I want it to work, so I will make the time. In addition, it's going to be long-distance, so I will have to consider the gas thing in my budget (good thing I'm car pooling now, hey?). 70 miles to Milwaukee is not so bad.

Anyway, yes, being with Ben is good. We've been such good friends for the last 3 years, so it's nice not to have to do that whole "I gotta' impress them" thing nobody ever means to do. If we did that, we'd completely see through it because we already know each other so well. We have both been praying about each other for 2+ years now, but we had never talked about it till this winter. That's pretty crazy - and cool. (Pause, I did tell him once last spring that I had become attached and wanted to know how he felt. He said that although he had feelings in the past, he wasn't interested at the time and he didn't think he'd be interested in the future, either, but added "but I'm not sure about a lot of things right now", which was an out-of-character comment for him. After that, I let go of the idea and tried to let go of the hope, but the fact that I felt drawn to him and was attracted to him did not go away.) So this winter he approached me and we eventually began talking about it. It turns out that he had liked me for 2 years also, and he had a theory/explanation for where he was last spring that made sense to me. Through the course of our conversations we realized we really wanted to, or needed to, date in order to find out if we really could marry each other or not, but when we prayed about it, God said "Not yet." So we let it go, possibly forever. Our good friendship remained and surprisingly, it never got weird and we truly stopped talking about it. We both felt that if we would ever revisit our conversations, it would be months away. Little did we know...

Apparently Ben got to this place a few weeks later where he just realized that he wanted to be with me and he didn't want to be without me any longer. :-) He also felt like, although he's moving and starting a new job in a new city soon, he wasn't interested in dating any other girl - I was the only one he wanted. He actually said "I got to this point where I realized I didn't WANT anything else." I realize this sounds conceited, or whatever, but I'm just telling you like it is. It's a blessing and a gift, not a result of anything that I've done. I feel so blessed. :) So anyway, he brought it up to me and we talked for HOURS about. I saw no reason to postpone it any longer, but said that my "yes" was a tentative "yes" because we needed to seek God for a few days on it. Both of us did that and God confirmed to us individually that he was giving this to us as a gift and that we were now free to date... My goodness! :-)

I've been learning so much already. Not dating till I knew I was ready and it was the right person was the best dating decision I could have ever made. I'm not saying we're getting married, but I can see that God's hand is in this and is guiding this, which means that it's going to be good, no matter what the outcome. I'm not banking on marriage, but I'm banking that it's going to be a good process, either way. I closed an e-mail to Ben last week this way:

I am praying about our relationship. I want to keep doing this the right way. (Romans 12:1-3, 9-12) I guess I just feel like whichever way this turns out, I want to do it with honor. If I get to keep you, I want to deserve it. If I don't, I want you to be a better man because of it and I want to be a more Godly woman. At the end of the day, there's no point to it unless we understand God better and fall more in love with Jesus. Therefore I will pray and ask God to be near to us, to speak to us, and to be Lord over this process... and I have faith that he will because of his grace and lovingkindness.

That is how I feel and that's how I want it to stay.

Toute la gloire à Dieu.

Carpooling Rules!

It's 4:33p.m. and I will be leaving the office in 7 minutes. It's been a long time since I've left work this early (especially on a Monday). For the past 9 months or so I've been coming into work at 9:00 and leaving at 5:30. Although this sounds great because I can sleep in later, I've found that I don't like getting off that late because it cuts into my evening activities, yet I haven't been able to be self-motivated enough to do anything about it.

Last week a guy in the office e-mailed a few people he heard lived near him and now I'm in a carpooling group. There are only three of us, but that means that I don't drive at least 2 weeks out of the month. HOLY GAS SAVING, BATMAN!! and we get into work at about 8:10 and leave at about 4:40. It's just the motivation I needed...

So, pros to my carpool:
1. I got TONS done today at work! Way more than I usually do.
2. I beat my boss into work. :-)
3. It was quieter than normal in the office for the first 30 minutes.
4. Better coffee (someone shared their own fresh-ground beans with me)
5. Less than 3 voicemails and 5 e-mails waiting to open this morning.
6. People to talk to in the car.
7. I'm leaving now (4:40pm).

Cons:
1. Earlier bedtime.
2. Others depending on me not to sleep through my alarm clock.
3. No vote on radio station at least 2 weeks out of the month. ;-)

So all in all, CARPOOLING RULES!!

"A Prayer of Barenness"

"A Prayer of Barenness"
Dana Candler

My heart aches. I love Him, yes, but faintly.
I desire Him, yes, but weakly.
I want Him, true, but waiveringly.
Even the pain that lies within
I reconize to be such faint pain,
A mere discomfort next to the heart-wrenching anguish
That grips true lovers
My knowledge is nothing. My wisdom, infancy.
I see nothing as it truly is.
Eternity what is light. The life of earth what is dark.
Stories remain stories. Not sinking deep within my soul,
And scarring me with Divine invasion
Your cross is a picture, Your Heaven a fantasy.
Tears are sweet emotions, moved by Your sacrifice.
But not the tears of sharing in Your sufferings.
I say your name so sweetly but do not know its Face.
All I am is far. So distant, so removed.
But you beckon me come.
Yet, my Lord, I am nothing. I have nothing. I know nothing.
When I thought I had something,
It dissolved before Your beauty,
And I was left naked. Possessing nothing.
Poor for words. Empty of all. Needy and alone.
Even so, my Love, call me.
Yes, do not leave me here but beckon me come.
Though I have nothing, though I am only poor,
I cast myself on your unfailing love
Where else would I go?
Whom have I but You?